Reconciling Back to Her

Reconciling Back to Her

In my last blog post I wrote about the importance of making myself a priority in my own life. I am so grateful for the responses to this blog and how others were able to relate to it. The one line from the blog that seemed to catch the eyes of readers was

The ironic part is that transformation is the death of that which can no longer sustain you for your future self.

When I wrote that I intended to communicate that transformation is the death of something that is keeping you from success and a giving of life or a positive resurrection of something that will bring value to you.

I have come to learn that having a vision is not enough. Is it good to have vision? Absolutely? Having a vision for your life is part of the initial foundation of achieving whatever goal you have for your life. To move from ideology to more pragmatic principles one must experience transformation. So what are the major obstacles to transformation. The antithesis to transformation is stagnation, inactivity, the lack of movement…in essence procrastination.

There is this psychology of procrastination in which many years of research by psychologist have shown why it is that people procrastinate.

Examples from the list consisted of these reasons:

1) Unclear goals

2) Rewards that are far in the future

3) A disconnect from our future self

4) Fear of Failure

5) Anxiety

6) Perfectionism

7) Fear of criticism

8) Lack of energy

9) Feeling overwhelmed

10) Task aversion[1]

Number three from the list pretty much slapped me across the face! Wow! A disconnect from our future self. In essence if procrastination or inactivity is keeping us from achieving our goals a reconciling back to that which we want to become must take place. This was such an amazing revelation! In my vision journal I have an activity in which a person writes a letter to their future self, and now two years later I find there is a psychology to this thing. This is powerful! Once I got over my initial excitement, I begin to think of how I let my future self down. How by not doing the things now to bring her closer to reality kept me in a state of stagnation. The healthier me, the more confident me, that part of me that is achieving her goals can seem far away when I allow procrastination to take precedence in my life. But it does not have to stay that way. Now is the time to reconcile back to her. I owe it to her. She has been waiting a long time for my embrace. Her transformation will come and I will enjoy the journey of reconciliation. Know that your future self it waiting for you… there is nothing that can keep the new you from you but you. Embrace the new you, appreciate and find genuine joy right now in this moment, and know that your past is the training ground of experience that will continue to propel you into success.

Much Love

Your sis Irene

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renew of you mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. Romans 12:2 KJV

[1] Why People Procrastinate: The Psychology and Causes of Procrastination. .2020